Relationships

Having Children in Your 30s and 40s

Having children in your 30s and 40s is becoming the norm today. It wasn’t all that long ago when most women would find their spouses in their 20s, and then settle down and have children. After WWII, women no longer worked in factories, healthcare, or other industries that required women to work, while men fought ...

7 Ways to Stop Work Stress from Ruining Your Marriage

There is no doubt that work stress has become an increasing factor in marital dissatisfaction. Today couples work on average a thousand more hours each year than people did thirty years ago. This number tends to increase further in expat cities as well as if you are an entrepreneur. All the extra work means that ...

Infidelity – 4 Steps to Affair Proof Your Marriage

By Nicola Beer

When it comes to infidelity and after the affair recovery in couple therapy, here are the top 3 common questions I often get asked: 1. Is it possible to avoid affairs and affair-proof your marriage? 2. Are there ways to ruin my cheating husband’s / wife’s affair and show them what they have with me? ...

5 Ways to Keep the Romance Alive in a Middle Age Marriage

By John Teng

One of the physical changes that I have been warned about as I get in to my middle age years is a declining interest in sex. Personally, now that I am approaching my mid-forties, I would say that I have noticed the beginnings of a decline in interest but I am not sure if that ...

7 Steps to Keep Your Hobbies and Marriage Intact

By Nicola Beer, International Relationship Coach

Note: The names have been changed to protect the true identity of the Individuals that are being discussed in this article. Jack and Jane were a couple who came for marriage counseling, as they were constantly fighting over Jane’s love of fashion and the financial cost of her shopping sprees, her husband Jack couldn’t keep ...

Why I Founded Midlife Magazine

I founded Midlife Magazine with the intent to convince middle age men and women that these precious years can and should be the very best years of their lives. With that purpose in mind, I created a one minute introduction video http://youtu.be/Mzt4MImmwzs that I wanted to convey the spirit of fun, excitement, and privilege that ...

Neighborhood Watch Neighbors

By John Teng

Several months ago, a very prominent couple in our neighborhood was forcibly tied up by 4 men who entered their home on a dark rainy evening. Fortunately, the couple was left relatively unharmed after the men got what they wanted. The men left the couple tied up in their home before fleeing the house. With ...

Midlife “Snipers”

By John Teng

I recently watched a documentary about the history of military snipers. The narrator mentioned that enemy snipers considered the officers as high value targets to snipers because to take down a leader not only caused confusion among the ranks of the other soldiers but also was a blow to the fighting morale to the troops ...

The Benefits of Having Friends with Different Interests

By John Teng

People say that opposites attract, and that is not just for love. It’s true that people who are different from you are intriguing. They have interests that you may never have explored and they do the things that you have never thought to try. Maybe this is why men and women in their midlife crisis ...

How to Build Positive Relationships

By John Teng

Positive relationships are good for you in so many ways. They are good for your heart, they keep you young, they can help you live longer and they work as a buffer during emotional times in your life. However, many people go through their life not knowing how to build positive relationships, and thus they ...

The Power of a Random Act of Kindness

By John Teng

Have you ever seen an unexplainable act of kindness and wonder, “why would anyone do that? Why would anyone stop to talk to the homeless man on the side of the street? Why would a woman on the phone offer to buy that candy for another person’s kids because they receive government aide? Why would ...

6 Intimacy Myths You Hear About Marriage

By Dr. Brent A. Barlow

Marriage is a union between two people, bringing two lives together and creating a life. Of course, keeping a marriage together is not just about saying “I do,” it is about passion, intimacy, and commitment. One of the big things, however, that tends to tear marriages apart is a failing sexual relationship and a lack ...

10 Marriage Myths That You Might Not Be Aware of

By Dr. Brent A. Barlow

Before you get married, you obviously dream about the perfect relationship, and when you got to your wedding day, everyone told you a lot of tips and tricks about how to keep your marriage together. However, they probably also told you a lot of myths about marriage that really are not true, but are often ...

How Do You Measure Up as A Husband? Take This Quiz to Find Out!

What kind of husband are you? Not sure? Take this short 5 question quiz to find out how you measure up against 5 traits that make a great husband! 1.Your wife comes to you with a problem in your marriage. Maybe it is something small like, you didn’t take the trash out. Or maybe, it ...

Beware of the “Dream Vampires” In Your Life

By John Teng

There are a lot of different types of people in your life. There are those who cheer you on; those who put up (and love) you despite the annoying person that you can be; and then there are the dream stealers. These are the people who – either intentionally or unintentionally – have found ways ...

Pay It Forward

By John Teng

Giving back isn’t just a nice sentiment; it is essential to life. It has been proven that the more we give, the more we get back. This is true in every area of our lives, including business. In order to achieve our dreams, it is vital that we learn to give back to others. Find ...

Loyalty: The Key to Success

By John Teng

Never underestimate the power of loyalty. It is a vital ingredient to business success. Without loyal customers, your business will fail to grow and without loyal employees, your business will falter. You need people to trust what you have to say; believe in what you offer; and follow your lead. Developing a loyal following is ...

Showing Your Kids That You Care

By John Teng

Kids need to feel loved; and sometimes that means going out of your way to show them how you feel. Not sure how to express your true emotions to your child? Here are 10 great ways to say “I Love You” without actually saying it. 1.Plan special “you and me” time. It doesn’t have to ...

The Financial Implications of a Midlife Affair

By John Teng

It seemed like fun at first. It was that gorgeous young secretary, the neighbor you could talk to, or the divorcee at the local bar. You started talking, exchanged numbers, and the next thing you know… you had started an affair. Now here you are, stuck between your girlfriend and your wife. Not only could ...

You’re in the Power Seat – Now What?

By John Teng

Middle age men have a lot going for them. They have more money … more prestige … and more power. There is a lot to be gained in these middle years. There is also a lot to lose. No mistake is small for the middle aged man. One slip up and he can ruin his ...

What’s Wrong with Men These Days?

By John Teng

Middle aged men are out of control … and they are paying the price. You see it everywhere you look: your neighborhood; workplace; even in the church. Men are having affairs; going into debt; and basically running their lives into the ground. What is driving these men to speed toward the cliff — and over ...

Infidelity – 4 Steps to Affair Proof Your Marriage

By Nicola Beer

When it comes to infidelity and after the affair recovery in couple therapy, here are the top 3 common questions I often get asked: 1. Is it possible to avoid affairs and affair-proof your marriage? 2. Are there ways to ruin my cheating husband’s / wife’s affair and show them what they have with me? ...

The Difference Between Forgiveness and Reconciliation

By John Teng

By the time you’ve reached midlife you’ve probably undergone several different types of conflict. This is why seniors are considered wise, as they have experienced nearly everything that life has to offer. But for the middle aged person, they may still be trying to figure things out. It’s what can keep people young—understanding that they ...

Infidelity Implications

By John Teng

When two people are involved in a committed relationship there are certain expectations that must be met, even if unvoiced. Fidelity for your spouse or partner is one of the top reasons why you maintain a relationship with your chosen. Without it, you and your partner wouldn’t even be in a relationship, as each person ...

Dealing with Angry Silence and Angry Outbursts in Marriage

By Nicola Beer

Anger is a normal, healthy emotion, it’s perfectly healthy and normal to feel angry when you’ve been mistreated or wronged by someone you love or used to love, but when it becomes consistent or explosive anger or spirals out of control, it can have serious consequences for your marriage, your health, and your state of ...

My Personal Perspective on Multi- Cultural Marriage

By John Teng

Before I share my remarks, I want to make a few important disclaimers as follows: 1. I am only sharing my own personal perspective as the child of a multi-cultural marriage. 2. Although my own parent’s marriage didn’t work out, many other multi- cultural marriages are very happy and healthy. 3. There’s no way that ...

5 Secrets to Protecting Yourself from Your Spouse’s Negativity

By Nicola Beer

“Nicola, my husband is chronically complaining and forever in a bad mood. He manages to find something wrong with everything and is constantly feeling hard done by and down. I don’t know how to help him or live with him at times! I don’t want him to ruin the holidays for me and the children ...

5 Ways to Keep the Romance Alive in a Middle Age Marriage

By John Teng

1. Bring Home Flowers. I’m speaking to the guys on this one. Guys, make sure you bring home flowers to your lady. Women love receiving flowers just as much after they are married as they did when you gave them to her while you were dating. And there’s no need to spend a fortune using ...

The Marriage Myths You Probably Believe

By Dr. Brent A. Barlow

You have probably heard a lot of myths about marriage throughout your life. For example, “you won’t always be as interested in her as you are now,” or “you always have to agree to have a successful marriage.” Of course, you know that these are not true, but you have a hard time not believing ...

Are you Ready to tie the knot? Take the Marriage Myth Quiz!

By Dr. Brent A. Barlow

When you get married there are many myths you hear and read about. You may think that you would know if something was true about marriage or not; especially if you have been married for a few years. Can you identify 5 common marriage myths? Take this short quiz to find out! 1. Pick The ...

7 Steps to keep your hobbies and marriage intact

Jack and Jane were a couple who came for marriage counseling, as they were constantly fighting over Jane’s love of fashion and the financial cost of her shopping sprees, her husband Jack couldn’t keep up with it and thought that there were far more important things to be spending money on. Jane felt hurt that ...

Why I Founded Midlife Magazine

By John Teng

I founded Midlife Magazine with the intent to convince middle age men and women that these precious years can and should be the very best years of their lives. With that purpose in mind, I created a one minute introduction video http://youtu.be/Mzt4MImmwzs that I wanted to convey the spirit of fun, excitement, and privilege that ...

Neighborhood Watch Neighbors

Several months ago, a very prominent couple in our neighborhood was forcibly tied up by 4 men who entered their home on a dark rainy evening. Fortunately, the couple was left relatively unharmed after the men got what they wanted. The men left the couple tied up in their home before fleeing the house. With ...

Midlife “Snipers”

I recently watched a documentary about the history of military snipers. The narrator mentioned that enemy snipers considered the officers as high value targets to snipers because to take down a leader not only caused confusion among the ranks of the other soldiers but also was a blow to the fighting morale to the troops ...

PMS Isn’t Just For Women

Okay, before you panic, men do not suffer from PMS. They may have to suffer through it with their wives and daughters, but for now, men are spared this monthly curse of emotional upheaval. That said, men do have hormones, and when these levels go haywire, their life can seem to veer out of control. ...

You’re In the Power Seat – Now What?

By John Teng

Middle age men have a lot going for them. They have more money … more prestige … and more power. There is a lot to be gained in these middle years. There is also a lot to lose. No mistake is small for the middle aged man. One slip up and he can ruin his ...

That Affair Is Going To Cost You: The Financial Implications of A Mid-Life Affair

It seemed like fun at first. It was that gorgeous young secretary, the neighbor you could talk to, or the divorcee at the local bar. You started talking, exchanged numbers, and the next thing you know… you had started an affair. Now here you are, stuck between your girlfriend and your wife. Not only could ...

Showing Your Kids That You Care

By John Teng

Kids need to feel loved; and sometimes that means going out of your way to show them how you feel. Not sure how to express your true emotions to your child? Here are 10 great ways to say “I Love You” without actually saying it. Plan special “you and me” time. It doesn’t have to ...

Loyalty: the Key to Success

By John Teng

Never underestimate the power of loyalty. It is a vital ingredient to business success. Without loyal customers, your business will fail to grow and without loyal employees, your business will falter. You need people to trust what you have to say; believe in what you offer; and follow your lead. Developing a loyal following is ...

Pay It Forward

By John Teng

Giving back isn’t just a nice sentiment; it is essential to life. It has been proven that the more we give, the more we get back. This is true in every area of our lives, including business. In order to achieve our dreams, it is vital that we learn to give back to others. Find ...

Beware of the “Dream Vampires” In Your Life

By John Teng

There are a lot of different types of people in your life. There are those who cheer you on; those who put up (and love) you despite the annoying person that you can be; and then there are the dream stealers. These are the people who – either intentionally or unintentionally – have found ways ...

How Do You Measure Up As A Husband? Take This Quiz To Find Out!

What kind of husband are you? Not sure? Take this short 5 question quiz to find out how you measure up against 5 traits that make a great husband! Your wife comes to you with a problem in your marriage. Maybe it is something small like, you didn’t take the trash out. Or maybe, it ...

10 Myths That You Don’t Know About Marriage- Advice given by Dr. Brent A. Barlow

Before you get married, you obviously dream about the perfect relationship, and when you got to your wedding day, everyone told you a lot of tips and tricks about how to keep your marriage together. However, they probably also told you a lot of myths about marriage that really are not true, but are often ...

6 Intimacy Myths You Hear About Marriage

By Dr. Brent A. Barlow

Marriage is a union between two people, bringing two lives together and creating a life. Of course, keeping a marriage together is not just about saying “I do,” it is about passion, intimacy, and commitment. One of the big things, however, that tends to tear marriages apart is a failing sexual relationship and a lack ...

The Power of a Random Act of Kindness

By John Teng

Have you ever seen an unexplainable act of kindness and wonder, “why would anyone do that? Why would anyone stop to talk to the homeless man on the side of the street? Why would a woman on the phone offer to buy that candy for another person’s kids because they receive government aide? Why would ...

How to Build Positive Relationships

By John Teng

Positive relationships are good for you in so many ways. They are good for your heart, they keep you young, they can help you live longer and they work as a buffer during emotional times in your life. However, many people go through their life not knowing how to build positive relationships, and thus they ...

The Benefits of Having Friends with Different Interests

By John Teng

People say that opposites attract, and that is not just for love. It’s true that people who are different from you are intriguing. They have interests that you may never have explored and they do the things that you have never thought to try. Maybe this is why men and women in their midlife crisis ...

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John Teng praises the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline for their toll free telephone number that provides men, women, and children with a wonderful resource to help them if they are contemplating suicide, or if they want to learn how they can other family members and loved ones who are feeling desperate. Visit http://www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org/